Infertility has a way of taking the romance, and fun out your most intimate moments. Sex can quickly become just a means to an end, and if you have been trying for while, a forced reminder of your difficulties or even your perceived failings. Things like tracking ovulation cycles, or, if you have been seeing a specialist, injections, blood draws and lot of poking and prodding just doesn’t do much in the romance aspect for most people. Don’t even get me started on the stress of infertility… Let’s be frank, fertility woes can add bucket loads of tension to the healthiest of relationships.
When you are dealing with infertility it is easy to lose your perspective. You can get so caught up in the process of timed intercourse, medications, and treatments that you can forget the most important thing. Your relationship with your partner. Whatever happens with your fertility journey it is important that you don’t forget to put the time and energy in to keeping your loving relationship going. With Valentines Day just around the corner, this makes it a perfect time to strengthen your relationship.
Love it or hate it, Valentines Day is coming up once again (hint.. it is this Thursday). I know it has become hyper-commercialized with sappy cards, jewelry adverts.. the list goes on. Many of us (myself included) would rather ignore the hype. No matter what your thoughts are, the core idea of Vday is a great one. It is supposed to be a day where you make that extra effort to make sure your partner, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc, feel special and loved. An idea anyone can get behind.
Regardless of your thoughts about Valentines Day, you should take the time this year to make your partner feel loved. If you are fighting with infertility, my advice is to take the day off (or maybe a day this weekend) from all the infertility stuff and focus on each other. No matter what you consider a good time, be it a nice walk together, a movie, or maybe a nice dinner out, make sure you do something together. Just spend time with your partner and reconnect. Whatever you do, make sure you finish the day in bed… without any thoughts of conception!